4.5 year old friendships advice
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Last post: 17/04/2023 at 10:54 pm
Just wondering if other Mums think I should step in about this, or if I'm being over protective and it's just normal 4/5 year olds...
My little girl is 4, will be 5 in July. She is in reception and had recently got quite close to one little girl in particular. Always talking about her and when I've been to the kids birthday parties they were always playing happily together. Just before the Easter holidays my LG started to say that this other girl was saying she wasn't her friend anymore, every day, leaving her to play on her own. My LG got a certificate on the last day and she said this friend didn't clap for her. They are a big class and although my lg seems to be friendly with everyone they have all got into clicks it seems, so she said she has said she didn't know who to play with. I thought the Easter hols might help with this other girl as they'd have some time apart but again she has come home today saying the same thing. She did play with another friend today but only because that girl's best friend wasn't there!
I definitely think my own memories and insecurities around friendships as a child are playing a part in my worries around this I remember having a best friend and us having fall outs and getting jealous of each other having other friends. So I've not pushed the whole "best friend" thing on her, just told her she can be friends with whoever she likes. I didn't expect the class to be so clicky at this age, and didn't expect issues until she got a bit older!
Other mums with older kids, is this normal? Or should I mention something to the teacher and just ask if my LG seems ok in class with this situation going on each day?
They all swop and change friends daily I have 2 in reception one in year 7 and the one in year 7 had different friends throughout primary one day someone's a friend next day they aren't and leaving her out and she had nobody. This happened weekly through school seems to be how they are it's normal.
I'd just ask teacher to make sure she has someone play with and isn't alone they quickly find and swop friends and even if saying they are left out usually they are still playing with them on and off very norxmal