My past is affecting my new relationship
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Last post: 07/04/2023 at 8:41 pm
If recently started a new relationship and my partner has three children aged 7, 11 and 14. Social services have contacted my new partner and informed him that I'm not allowed to have any contact with his children due to social services involvement with my own children that live with my mum due to a bad relationship choice 11 years ago which then led to a neglect charge. I really like my new partner and was hoping it would lead to something more so what can I do to resolve this please I'm so gutted
Hi Alison
I am a family solicitor and regularly represent parents in cases involving social services.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time at the moment. I of course do not know your specific circumstances, however if your partner wishes for you to be involved in his children’s lives, social services may wish to complete an updating assessment of you so that they are able to consider your current circumstances and what might have changed since they were last involved with your family. It may be that certain measures can be put in place to ensure the children’s safety, for example, that your partner must always be present.
It is always recommended that people should engage with these assessments and it is always important to be open and honest with social services.
All the best,
Lauren
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Hi Alison
I am a family solicitor and regularly represent parents in cases involving social services.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time at the moment. I of course do not know your specific circumstances, however if your partner wishes for you to be involved in his children’s lives, social services may wish to complete an updating assessment of you so that they are able to consider your current circumstances and what might have changed since they were last involved with your family. It may be that certain measures can be put in place to ensure the children’s safety, for example, that your partner must always be present.
It is always recommended that people should engage with these assessments and it is always important to be open and honest with social services.
All the best,
Lauren
The Netmums Parent Supporter Team are also on this board and may come along and offer you their guidance as well.
GoodLaw Solicitors LLP are a proud Parent Supporter of Netmums. The information provided does not constitute full legal advice and is legal information based on the details provided only. GoodLaw Solicitors offer free initial consultations in qualifying circumstances and would recommend you seek independent legal advice if you are in any doubt as to your position or best way forward.
Thank you for your reply it was verry helpful
You also have to take the mother of his childrens feelings into account. If she doesn’t want you involved with her childrens lives because of your past you can’t force that and have to respect her wishes .