Abusive mum
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Last post: 31/01/2023 at 11:20 pm
My son is in a custody battle with his ex over my precious grandaughter(5) he has 50/50 by the courts but she will not let her come to see him.she has been found to be physical abusive by the courts but she is still with her.cafcass and another agency
Icfa
have become involved .the child wants to come home to her father.my son is in bits over this and the next court hearing is in 3 weeks.This has been going on for 20months.completely isolated from him no photos no zoom ,phone nothing anyone got any advice?
Hi Jennifer,
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Hi Jennifer,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the Parent Supporters at Netmums. It sounds like it has been incredibly difficult for you and your son to be apart from your granddaughter under these circumstances. You are doing all the right things in regards to going through the courts and highlighting your concerns officially, but it doesn’t make it any easier when contact hasn’t been reinstated yet.
I wonder what input you have had from Cafcass and ICFA so far? Have you had much contact with them or has this mainly been through your son? ICFA provide a summary of what to expect from a referral on their website if you would like any more information about this: https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/improving-child-and-family-arrangements/
You can find more information about how to report your concerns about abuse here: How to report child abuse without any worries | NSPCC
Are social services involved with your granddaughter currently?
Your son could also find some further guidance here: Fathers - Family Rights Group (frg.org.uk) they have some really useful information relating to father’s contact rights
Ultimately, your granddaughter’s wellbeing will be prioritised in this case and her own personal preference will be taken into account as well. Three weeks must feel like a long time to wait but I hope you are able to get some positive action at the next court date
Wishing you all the best,
Kayleigh
Hi Jennifer,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the Parent Supporters at Netmums. It sounds like it has been incredibly difficult for you and your son to be apart from your granddaughter under these circumstances. You are doing all the right things in regards to going through the courts and highlighting your concerns officially, but it doesn’t make it any easier when contact hasn’t been reinstated yet.
I wonder what input you have had from Cafcass and ICFA so far? Have you had much contact with them or has this mainly been through your son? ICFA provide a summary of what to expect from a referral on their website if you would like any more information about this: https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/improving-child-and-family-arrangements/
You can find more information about how to report your concerns about abuse here: How to report child abuse without any worries | NSPCC
Are social services involved with your granddaughter currently?
Your son could also find some further guidance here: Fathers - Family Rights Group (frg.org.uk) they have some really useful information relating to father’s contact rights
Ultimately, your granddaughter’s wellbeing will be prioritised in this case and her own personal preference will be taken into account as well. Three weeks must feel like a long time to wait but I hope you are able to get some positive action at the next court date
Wishing you all the best,
Kayleigh
The child's preference from the cafcass worker is to want to see her daddy just mum won't allow it .we ha e not met the icfa worker yet.it is so difficult when he has done nothing but protect his child and as a stay at home dad had almost sole care of her I shall try the links tomorrow thank you