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9yr old daughter started masturbating?

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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
26/08/2013 at 1:03 pm
Hello, just recently my daughter has started masturbating in the shower.  This really bothers me and I don't know how to handle it or what to say to her.
I want to be open and honest and I want her to know that she can talk to me but I don't know where to start with this one.  Is it normal?
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AMY G(1069)
Amy G(1069)
26/08/2013 at 1:16 pm
Yes, totally normal. I personally would just leave it as probing her further may just end up needlessly embarrassing her. It's perfectly normal to explore your own body, why does it bother you?

Can I just ask (out of nosiness) how you know she is doing it?
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HARRIET C(58)
Harriet C(58)
26/08/2013 at 1:20 pm
How do you know?! Id say its normal x
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
26/08/2013 at 1:37 pm
Thank you that makes me feel loads better.  I walked in on her shower a few weeks ago and saw her - she immediately pretended she wasn't doing anything and bless her, my heart went out to her.  She asked me to close the door when I went out which I did but I lingered on the other side listening to the rhythmic noise and aching that my baby girl was growing up
Since then she asks to shower in private.  I did have a heart to heart with her about growing up and experimenting etc but she wasn't keen to persue it so I let it be.
It only bothers me because she's still so young and I didn't realise that she would be having these feelings at such a young age.
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AMY G(1069)
Amy G(1069)
26/08/2013 at 1:43 pm
In answer to
Anonymous
Thank you that makes me feel loads better.  I walked in on her shower a few weeks ago and saw her - she immediately pretended she wasn't doing anything and bless her, my heart went out to her.  She asked me to close the door when I went out which I did but I lingered on the other side listening to the rhythmic noise and aching that my baby girl was growing up
Since then she asks to shower in private.  I did have a heart to heart with her about growing up and experimenting etc but she wasn't keen to persue it so I let it be.
It only bothers me because she's still so young and I didn't realise that she would be having these feelings at such a young age.
Bless her she must have been mortified when you walked in. I am almost certain I did it at that age, I have done it for as long as I can actually remember (and there's definitely nothing wrong with me ). The important thing is that she shouldn't feel it's something to be ashamed of. Perfectly normal and absolutely fine to do privately.
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
26/08/2013 at 1:48 pm
In answer to
Anonymous
Thank you that makes me feel loads better.  I walked in on her shower a few weeks ago and saw her - she immediately pretended she wasn't doing anything and bless her, my heart went out to her.  She asked me to close the door when I went out which I did but I lingered on the other side listening to the rhythmic noise and aching that my baby girl was growing up
Since then she asks to shower in private.  I did have a heart to heart with her about growing up and experimenting etc but she wasn't keen to persue it so I let it be.
It only bothers me because she's still so young and I didn't realise that she would be having these feelings at such a young age.
It shouldn't bother you as this is totally normal. Children as young as six learn to masturbate. It's wrong to associate masturbation with adulthood and sex because it's not quite the same.
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
26/08/2013 at 2:13 pm
Oh goodness. My daughter is 9 and hadn't given it a thought!

I remember my mum walking in on me, on the floor, rubbing myself against a cushion!! It was never mentioned though. X
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
29/08/2013 at 6:11 pm
Oh gosh.... I hope my 9yr old isn't doing such things... She still seems so young. Although she bathes with her younger siblings with the door open....

Feeling your anxiety. X
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
01/09/2013 at 9:17 pm
I have a 9 and 11 yr old daughters,and was cort masturbating by my 9 year old.i didn't realize she was stood watching,and now I've seen her masturbating!I feel so guilty thinking  its my fault:(
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KERRY G(227)
kerry g(227)
01/09/2013 at 9:33 pm
Don't make an issue of it.
Somebody a while ago talked about a 'growing up box' which I plan to so for my two girls soon. It included books about sex and biology, sanitary towels etc...
Maybe just do something like that and offer her the choice to come to you with any questions...
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
01/09/2013 at 10:12 pm
What is it that you are worried about?
This is perfectly normal behaviour.
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
01/09/2013 at 10:19 pm
In answer to
Anonymous
Oh gosh.... I hope my 9yr old isn't doing such things... She still seems so young. Although she bathes with her younger siblings with the door open....

Feeling your anxiety. X
Not a very helpful comment - it's perfectly normal behaviour
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
02/09/2013 at 10:31 am
Maybe not helpful, but a scary thought none-the-less...
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AMY G(1069)
Amy G(1069)
02/09/2013 at 10:34 am
In answer to
Anonymous
Maybe not helpful, but a scary thought none-the-less...
Why is it scary? It is NORMAL.
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ANONYMOUS
Anonymous
02/09/2013 at 10:35 am
My eldest is 9 i wouldnt feel comfortable knowing that either.

How do you know she does this? and does she just touch her bits or actually masterbate? i wouldnt have known how to at 9
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