EXTREMELY unsociable 21 month old!!!!!
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Last post: 24/03/2023 at 7:26 pm
I know it's my fault as I have been a stay-at-home mom, went back to work, made redundant and struggling to find work so cannot afford to send dd to nursery. Just moved to new town too so trying to get to know new toddler groups etc so dd can be around other children. But since these screaming episodes I'm finding it really hard to go as I know we'll be there for a few minutes then we'd have to leave... Please help!!!!!
I started going to soft play areas/park etc at quieter times everyday. My son used to cry and look round in horror at the over kids but I used to set myself a time to stay there. Day 1 stay for 5mins, day 2 stay for 10mins, day 3 stay for 15 mins and so on. Its taken about 4 weeks but there is so much improvement and he actually enjoys going now and being around the other kids.
If she runs to you screaming try and comfort her with cuddles or making a fuss so that she learns from you that it is no big deal and that she won't be "rewarded" with cuddles (sorry if you already do this - don't mean to patronise!)
Have you tried putting and advert on the meet a mum board - maybe a child she sees more often would help her to accept it and having a friend in new social situations would give her confidence.
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I know it's my fault as I have been a stay-at-home mom, went back to work, made redundant and struggling to find work so cannot afford to send dd to nursery. Just moved to new town too so trying to get to know new toddler groups etc so dd can be around other children. But since these screaming episodes I'm finding it really hard to go as I know we'll be there for a few minutes then we'd have to leave... Please help!!!!!
I wish I could meet you in the park. We might be able to team up! I have an only child who loves adults but is less keen on children (they take the adults attention from him and force him to share!!). He quite often loudly tells other children to 'Go Away' when they come into the playground because of course he thinks he owns the playground! I used to be a bi embarrassed of him being so rude and bossy but now I realize I just have to keep exposing him to these kinds of social situations to move him on a bit (and he has made some improvements). I would echo the whole things about little and often and would also add to try and do it when your LO is at her best and not when they are close to nap time and tired and crabby anyway. The other thing I realize is that most parents of toddlers are going through one form of antisocial behaviour or another. Your girls is on full display in the park whilst others look lovely and sweet whilst they are out playing and reserve their most fiendish habits for the home (mealtimes, bed times or worse...night times!!). This thought helps me far less embarrassed while I am out because I really think most parents who are going through it will not be judging me.
Good luck x
Hi
just wandered if your little one improved over time and if you have any tips for me? My DD is doing exactly the same, she is 19 months. Every time I child her age goes near her she’s cries uncontrollably and even has tried to slap them. I am mortified and struggling with how to deal with it xx
