Online sex chat
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Last post: 13/04/2023 at 5:50 pm
My Husband uses these when he’s been drinking no other time that I am aware of. Initially I was furious but it didn’t stop so I also joined with a different account eventually he realised and we agreed that as long as he was honest and I had access to his account it could be fun. I do not chat I scrutinise it trying to catch him out so far no success! However if he starts a private chat he won’t tell me but occasionally he will invite me to join and then he goes quiet. I am happy with my sex life and feel I am not enough- he wants to chat to other women or couples and then wants me to have sex I feel unattractive undesirable and like a vessel. I am broad minded and open to try most things of a sexual nature. We did engage in a 3some lady had perfect figure but he showed no interest in me and I stood watching feeling so inadequate and irrelevant. We had a row and he said his penis slid out of me so he went back to her. Im struggling with all of this and wonder if I am worth more than this?
Hi there - I have not been where you are and in terms of the sex chat online that has not been something I have ever done, however I do relate to a guy being frustrated and unsatisfied so my first comment would be to talk to him. It was interesting you saying that you are happy with your sex life, however you should both be happy and if not then you should both be working towards this.
The conversation might end up that while you are happy and he isn't, there is no solution as you are doing as much as you can or are happy to do but you do need that open conversation. I think allowing another person into the situation can be really hard and you should both feel comfortable if you go down this route.
I appreciate you say you are struggling but from reading this I don't think it's just you struggling.
Do speak to him and I hope you can sort things
It sounds like you are giving too much and he is taking to much.
You've agreed to him doing online chat. You've agreed to a threesome. And he then insults you.
You both need to sit and talk and get to the root of the problem and find a compromise. Find out what it is he is looking for when he goes on these sites and what he feels he is missing in your sexual relationship. And you can tell him how it makes you feel. Maybe you can come up with something that will be fun for both of you. Watch videos on these sites together. Or go on a site for new toys and role play dress ups.
But he cannot carry on using the sites if it's making you feel insecure. Good luck x
I tried to be open minded about the previous responses but I just can’t get there…
He sounds like a snake and it sounds like you’re in an abusive relationship.
You didn’t magic up the negative feelings you have about yourself, it’s cause and effect. He’s shamed you.
And in answer to your question - you are worth more than this.
We only have one life love. Get some support and get out 💪☮️
He makes you feel unattractive and undesirable.
He has used a threesome situation to make you feel inadequate and irrelevant.
He does things that he knows make you feel insecure, and when you complain he pretends to involve you in them rather than addressing your concerns.
He ignores your feelings, and behaves how he wishes to behave, even when he knows that it hurts you.
So, what does he do that really compensates for all of this? What makes him such a great guy that you want to be with him?
I'll be honest, I'm struggling to think of any real answer to that.
In your position I'd consider getting in touch with Women's Aid, and making plans to leave. But if you do, don't even hint to this man that you might do so.
Good luck.