kids put on at risk regiter because what if this happens n what if that happens

Hi i've never done anything like this but have always turned to mumsnet for help in past,i need help or advice as i don't know what to do. i will explain my situation.... my 16 year old son and 1 yr old daughter was put on the child at risk register for neglect 2 weeks before Xmas started with malicious calls from baby's dads ex this is about the 3rd time in 4 years she done this (amongst other things , shes obsessed still but thats a whole other thread) anyway she has managed to manipulate family members into believing her lies so therefore they have backed her up with SS. at the meeting the HV kept saying that baby is doing great, very clever, no concerns etc but the didn't seem to care, the SW wasn't even there instead it was a duty SW who had a quick flick through our file before walking in the room,a man from L&Q housing was there and looked just as confused as us as to why he was there( SW did it to make sure he knew why she was involved cos i made her take out that part of a letter i asked her to write to support us moving, and she didn't like it i told her its allegations and she is now making people think im a junkie or something when im not and mud sticks etc and the housing have nothing to do with this) and a policewoman on zoom. i have a few mental health conditions and have struggled this year and was suicidal back in may time, but did everything right i called MHT but was totally failed by them i was home alone with baby( she was 10 moths old at time) and was asked will you be ok until morning and we will come out and assess you, so agreed, i then called every day for 2 weeks and no one ever returned my call, no visit ever (still to this day i haven seen anyone) anyway after 2 weeks of me calling every day crying out for help my mum called and complained and i finally got a call for an assessment. anyway cut it short for months i was calling to only be fobbed off or ignored, with support of partner and close family i have got myself better and doing ok without any professional help., my partner goes to drug meetings every week as he is an addict but is on a program and is clean etc, my 16 year old was being groomed early this yer by those county line drugs thing and was stopped n searched a few time and arrested once. i called SS for help told police everything we knew and nothing, no one helped SS turned up 3 months later saying oh you called us bla bla, so told them all sorted me and partner got him away from it all, his got a gf now and stays out of trouble (very proud of him), so back to the ex she has managed to convince some so called family and SS that my partner is emotionally and financially abusing me, his got me hooked on drugs, ive sold everything o pay for drugs, there is DV, the flat is a s**t hole never got gas or electric or food, i dont feed baby, i dont look after her and lay in bed all day, im borrowing money to pay for nappies cos im spending all my benefits on drugs (i work ) and i have severe mental health issues and im basically a danger to kids..... they voted to put 16yr old on at risk because his not in college ( he did try but was let down at last min so his enrolling for september) and he seeps at his gf quite a bit so that classed as neglect and they voted baby for a CIN plan, the man holding the meeting overruled them and put them both on at risk. his reasons was..... what if your MH deteriorates, what if partner relapses on drugs, maybe there is DV (none whatsoever and no proof), what if there is emotional and financial abuse ( again none whatsoever and no proof), what if you dont feed baby, what if shes not clothed properly etc etc , again untrue and the HV (who is the only one with regular contact) sat there and said baby is always clean, well dressed, weight ok, shes very cleaver and no concerns at all, she was basically ignored, i was accused of not engaging with MH team so i got out my diary with every phone call i made to them with time date and what was said etc and that there was no reply and they just basically said i could've made that all up its not proof, they said they very concerned 16 yr is going down wrong path and at risk of criminal activities told them that last time he was involved with police was march when no one was helping where was they then and now his not involved in any of that they wanna start bringing it up and making out his some gangster or something. basically everything they said i proved wrong and it was all basically well what ifs and maybes, i told them that thats not fair, there is no proof of any of it and they cant use my MH (that is very stable no thanks to MH team) as a reason to do this, i feel they made their minds up before we got there and all they kept doing was bringing up historic stuff when no one cared and we dealt with it all and now they wanna get involved, there is so much more to this and the SW is a blatant liar and ive requested a new one she has caused issues with me n son telling him private information about an incident with my MH about a year ago when she had absolutely no right to, it wasnt for her to decide to tell my 16 yr old son its something he didnt need to know and shouldn't have to deal with, she has told people the reasons she is involved when ***** i told her they are allegations, not fact there no proof etc so she has no right telling people that im on drugs etc. ive have offered to do a drug test and they accused me of not engaging with them cos i haven't done a drug test yet, and as i said to them, how can they say that when i haven't seen or heard from SW since i told her i would do one, how am i supposed to get a test when i dont now how to go about it surely she should arrange it, its not exactly something i have experience in and now the SW still hasn't sent me the minutes to the meeting ready for the 1st core meeting tomorrow and she has ignored me since22nd during our last conversation via text, as soon as i asked for them she stopped all communication so i have nothing to prepare with, sorry i hope that all makes sense i know ive gone on a bit but i want people to know the full story etc....do i have grounds to appeal this, for a duty SW turning up, housing officer having a vote (he even said he doesn't know us only spoke once on phone), the bloke overruled the vote, it was all what is and maybes and historical things etc i was ignored and we proved it was all lies and that its not the 1st time the ex has done this and other stuff that i have actually now got a police harassment case against her, we was just made to feel like terrible parents and the fact that i have worked so hard to gt myself well and to where i am today mentally etc compared to all those months ago meant nothing and didnt matter and when the HV sat there and said that we good parents and have a great bond with baby and that there no concerns etc, again ignored by them, i asked them where was all this so called concern and help when i was being mentally and physically abused 14 years ago by my ex,when i was in a place of desperation mentally and was sectioned when i finally got free from him, nothing and now they wanna come in and do this please can someone give me some advise again im sorry for long post but it actually has done me good getting it all off my chest too. thank you for reading and thankyou for any advise in advance