My 3 year old recently diagnosed with autism. Not interested in anything
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Last post: 15/03/2023 at 10:17 am
I I have three boys, two are on the spectrum.
My youngest was recently diagnosed with autism like his nearly 10 year old brother Alfie.
Alfie is very bright, played with toys, ipad and watched anything on the TV also did activities with me.
Wesley is 3 now and has no interest in anything. Take him to a playground he'll just stand there, even we me guiding him and trying to get some interaction.
There is only 4 things he'll watch, not interested in toys and activities are proving very difficult.
Our home life can be very difficult with his austisc brother Alfie not liking him. Thank god for his other brother Jack who adores him.
I don't know what to do. His nursery are brilliant he goes there twice a week and definitely have their challenges getting him to interact.
I'm at a loss, I'm not going to get these moments back but Wesley is just not interested in anything no matter how hard I try
Hi Carly,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the parent supporters at Netmums. You are really trying to connect with your son and I imagine it feels disappointing that you are not seeing him show interest. It sounds like his behaviour is very different from your older son who also has autism too. Two different people with an autism diagnosis can have such varying personalities, but it might leave you feeling confused on how to find ways to bond with your youngest when this wasn’t an issue with your older son.
For some people with autism, they can seem to be in their own world and I wonder if this is how it feels with your youngest? There is likely lots going through his mind, but he may be having trouble expressing this, and it’s leaving you with little to work with.
The National Autistic Society have a helpful page about communication here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/communication/understanding-and-developing-communication
It has a section on supporting communication development with some suggestions that may be helpful.
Please do let us know if we can support you further with this
Wishing you all the best,
Kayleigh
Hi Carly,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the parent supporters at Netmums. You are really trying to connect with your son and I imagine it feels disappointing that you are not seeing him show interest. It sounds like his behaviour is very different from your older son who also has autism too. Two different people with an autism diagnosis can have such varying personalities, but it might leave you feeling confused on how to find ways to bond with your youngest when this wasn’t an issue with your older son.
For some people with autism, they can seem to be in their own world and I wonder if this is how it feels with your youngest? There is likely lots going through his mind, but he may be having trouble expressing this, and it’s leaving you with little to work with.
The National Autistic Society have a helpful page about communication here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/communication/understanding-and-developing-communication
It has a section on supporting communication development with some suggestions that may be helpful.
Please do let us know if we can support you further with this
Wishing you all the best,
Kayleigh
Hi Kayleigh
Thank you so much for your lovely message. I will be In contact if I struggle.
Wes watches a lot of Alfie's meltdowns and gets lost in all of Alfie's chaos. Wes is very difficult to entertain but very calm and collected. Alfie is easy to entertain but emotional wreck that gets angry very quickly.
A lot of what you say is very true. I'd love to be in Wesley's mind.
I'll look into the Autistic Society and see what they can offer me thank you so much