I'm so unhappy in my marriage

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Last post: 17/04/2023 at 11:10 am

Hayley G(726)

07/04/2023 at 4:29 pm

Hi, I'm new here and just looking for advice and experiences.

I've been with my husband for 11 years married for 10, we have 2 children 11& 8. For a long while I have been unhappy. I've felt myself falling out of love with my husband. He is a brilliant father and a good man. But I'm not attracted to him anymore and by feelings have all but disappeared.

I spoke to him about this. It came as a huge shock to him. I told him I wanted to leave, that I was terribly unhappy and it wasn't because of anything he has done. I agreed to work on things, mainly because I didn't feel I had a choice. That was at the beginning of the year. Since then, there has been no physical contact whatsoever, he has tried, but the thought of it gives me huge anxiety as I feel like I would be giving him hope. I don't want to hurt him at all, but I've gotten to a point where I am so unhappy, I feel numb to everything. I can't even cry, I feel so disconnected from my life.

He has been trying very hard, which I appreciate, and I did try too. But his trying is making me so uncomfortable.

I probably sound like a selfish and awful person, I can't bare to be this miserable anymore. I really don't know what to do.

Katie P(2400)

10/04/2023 at 7:06 pm

Hi Hayley,

I'm Katie, a Parent Supporter here. I have been reading through your post and can hear how low and disconnected you have been feeling.

You don't sound selfish at all Hayley, in actual fact, I got the total opposite feeling from this post. You are staying in a relationship that you don't feel happy and fulfilled in, because you are worried about hurting your partner.

It sounds like you are wanting to leave but this is really daunting as you don't know how it will affect those around you.

Hayley, could it be an option to give yourself some space for a short while and have a break to figure out how to move forward? Do you have family that you could stay with?

I really hope that you have some support around you, you all deserve to be happy.

Katie x

Lisa B(11)730431

17/04/2023 at 11:10 am

Are you suffering from depression

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