Cheating - OF
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Last post: 14/03/2023 at 10:52 pm
Hi, interested in others opinions would you say all the following was cheating?
spouse watching porn (without you /on own)
spouse having only fans account but not subscribing to anyone
spouse having only fans account and subscribing to 1 or more people (but no messages or requests)
I think def no 2, not no 1 and maybe/prob no 3
I would say it depends entirely on what those in the relationship find acceptable.
For example, none of these would bother me or my wife, but we'd have discussed it before doing it, and made sure that we were both ok with it, and if either was uncomfortable, the other wouldn't go ahead.
Porn no men and women use it no harm if healthy sex life and not rejecting partner and using this instead .
Only fans yes paying
To see other ppl when it can be ppl you know etc too yes cheating
In my book all the above is definitely not acceptable! I set the ground rules early on around all this with my partner and he fully understands, but I still tell him to hand me his phone sometimes so I can check he's doing as I said from the begining.
Check what he's doing and make sure you tell him what you won't tolerate
Not fair, what are his reasons for doing that
Porn no men and women use it no harm if healthy sex life and not rejecting partner and using this instead .
Only fans yes paying
To see other ppl when it can be ppl you know etc too yes cheating
Bit controlling he likely has another phone you know nothing About
Personally in my relationship all 3 are cheating. Having a sexual experience with anyone else is crossing a boundary. Studies have also shown that the brain also doesn’t understand the difference between a ‘real’ body in front of them and a computer screen body.
Bit controlling he likely has another phone you know nothing About
Believe it or not, complete monogamy is possible. Porn isn’t a necessity for males or females. You don’t have to watch other people have sex to be able to get off. Sex is a million times better when porn isn’t a part of the relationship. People can, and do, respect other people’s boundaries. Respect isn’t control.
In my book all the above is definitely not acceptable! I set the ground rules early on around all this with my partner and he fully understands, but I still tell him to hand me his phone sometimes so I can check he's doing as I said from the begining.
Check what he's doing and make sure you tell him what you won't tolerate
Why do you check his phone? Do you not trust him? Ground rules are fine but I’d never check someone’s phone unless I had reason to be concerned as everyone is entitled to their personal space and privacy.
I’m in this position atm. My husband has an only fans and has been subscribing to women that he has found on TikTok. Full on conversations and paying for videos and images.
im confused as to what it is. I feel really hurt because it’s so much more personal than porn. He’s actively sought someone out and paid her for conversations. From her side it’ll just be sex work so that makes me think not cheating but from his side there’s no way he could really have thought I’d be okay with it? Idk. He says it’s just porn in his head. It’s definitely a weird grey area and I think it depends on how the people involved feel. For me it’s made me feel unattractive and ***** and like my husband has these secret lusts.
I personally don't think any of these things are cheating.
Bit controlling he likely has another phone you know nothing About
Did you mean to reply to me, not the other Laura? I don't see anything wrong with that, and trust me I'd know if there was another phone, I find out everything!
Why do you check his phone? Do you not trust him? Ground rules are fine but I’d never check someone’s phone unless I had reason to be concerned as everyone is entitled to their personal space and privacy.
I just see what he's been up to and make sure there isn't anything explicit on there, except for me lol, that's allowed! I like having a bit more control in a relationship, he knew this right from the start, so can't exactly complain
No, Porn IS NOT cheating.
Onlyfans IS NOT cheating.
Subscribing to somone on OF is not cheating.
Men watch porn, woman watch porn. If fact!!!
A Women using a vibrator, etc is not cheating, same as a man watching porn.
Its a medium for mastabation. Men usually need something visual to get off. A woman just uses a Toy.
If you are stupid enough to think that the 1000's of ppl that might be subscribing to OF, that you hubby is cheating with that person, you are a fool. So if I sub. to Kerry Katona, or some z list celeb in America, Am I cheating by looking at their pics. No. All they are doing it paying to look at their pics.
Its not a dating site!!!
Any of you saying that any of it is cheating, go wobble you head!!!
And the person that checks their hubbys/partners phone. You are a narcassist!!! He should run for the hills!!
I just see what he's been up to and make sure there isn't anything explicit on there, except for me lol, that's allowed! I like having a bit more control in a relationship, he knew this right from the start, so can't exactly complain
Control….
Just imagine for a moment if a man came on here and said he checks his wife’s phone from time to time as he likes to know what she has been up to.