My 6 year old hits me
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Last post: 17/04/2023 at 3:14 pm
My son is 6 and is very abusive to me. His behaviour has escalated in the last 3 months and he is also abusive and hits his teachers. He is is a class by himself but they keep trying to reintroduce him to the class. The holidays have been a challenge and bed time is always par if the day I dread. He starts off nice till the time comes to actually go to sleep. It always results in me covered in more bruises etc. tonight he pulled a loo of my hair out and bit me hard enough to cause bruising on my hand.
his dad left the house in January and this is definitely where the behaviour started to escalate. He has just started the journey with a peadiatrician and waiting lists are long they suspect adhd but no diagnosis or possible medication as yet and that could take up to 2 years before they decide in that.
I just want someone to say it’s going to get bette as I’m scared the bigger he gets the more risk I am at and I’m scared of my 6 year old:(
My son turns 6 this week he is going down adhd pathway which got sent back as normal b3haviour so me and school will be trying again in a few months. He doesn't hit me or kids etc. His sisters he does but he can't concentrate In class needs things being explained a few times etc. Is behind at school. He is worse at night won't go bed etc and is hyper and gets annoyed when it's bed so can shout at me for hours. Runs about etc and doesn't stop till 11pm.
Have u worked out why he hits etc what triggers him what can help and distract etc. Use different approaches. Do school have things set in place for him. Medication had bad side effects so not always helpful and like u say its a long long wait list and of gets returned like mine saying normal 5 year old behaviour which isn't as teachers doctors etc all know he has it so it's a long process
I do have to do things different with him unlike my other two and constant watch and distract him and use other methods etc for things he had no sense of danger and his understanding is behind so does need constant watching. U could join groups too look online or write diary's when his triggers are etc x
Hi Alison,
I’m Kayleigh, one of the parent supporters at Netmums. I’m sorry to hear that your son’s behaviour is challenging at the moment, this sounds really hard especially when he is hurting you. I’ve requested that your thread is moved into our drop in clinic so we can support you further with this.
You have done the right thing by reaching out for support from health professionals, but I hear you that you’re conscious it could be a long wait before you receive a diagnosis. It sounds like you are already considering the underlying issues which may be impacting your son’s behaviour and you have noticed changes in his behaviour since his dad left the home. Sometimes, aggressive behaviour can arise when a child is experiencing difficult feelings and they are struggling to express them in other ways.
Netmums have some helpful advice here on coping with children hitting, which includes reasons why this can happen and how to respond: https://www.netmums.com/support/child-hitting-parents-what-to-do
I wonder if any of this might resonate with you?
Reassure yourself that you are doing what you can to work on this now to prevent the aggression from continuing in the future. Well done for reaching out for support here too, hopefully some of our community members will be along soon to share their own experiences and advice
Please let us know if we can support you further with this
Take care,
Kayleigh
Hi Alison,
We've moved your thread into our drop-in clinic - baby and child health board, so you can get the advice and support you need