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Hi Tilly.

I can understand your asking (please ignore the shouty responses so far).

In todays society, it is very difficult that people are overly cautious of things seen as sexualised. I think Dad's in particular get this really bad.

I remember my husband being very wary taking our daughter to the toilet for the first time, because of risk of how things can be 'seen'.

It is a very different thing when it is a child wanting to get into a bed with their parent than when a parent who has an ulterior motive and sonething untoward happening.

Your gut instinct of how your child's dad is towards your daughter, and your child's relationship with their dad. This should give you the answer you're looking for as to whether it is innocent or not.

I think this is a really hard topic to discuss without people jumping down on one side.

Do you feel you can say out loud to your child's father what your worries are?

Hello. You are the mother. You know your partner and your daughter so well. If you have reason to believe that your daughter isn’t safe with her dad then she shouldn’t sleep in the same bed with him cause we don’t know the situation.

It's not her daughter. It's his daughter from a prev relationship. If you click on her name and read previous post, I don't think the issue is whether dad can be trusted but more of the daughter rules dad. She says jump and dad says how high even if it is detrimental to the rest of the household.

im a mother of girls and one always chose to sleep with dad if she got scared during the night. Where the other and my sons slept with me. my nearly 6yo son still sleeps with me most nights.

I was s abused as a child by my step dad and I never wanted to be left alone with him even to go the shops.

I think it depends on the relationship, how much u trust the dad, and what other sleeping options are available.

Amelia, is there any need for such an aggressive response. The OP has come seeking advice and support.

Is response though, there are plenty of issues to consider with regards to the question in hand but ultimately, no, it's not really ok for a 7year old to sleep with her Father every night. Occasionally, yes, that's ok. But not every night.

I base my answer upon my knowledge as a Senior Children's Practitioner and a wide body of the most up-to-date research which is accepted by experts in this field.

Haven't got time to explain why, use google academic. It'd be helpful if people were a little more informed before being so disdainful to others.

I have just read your previous post for more context. It all sounds very complex and not just a case of it being appropriate for her to sleep in the same bed. It sounds like she has struggled with having a new sibling and her dad is struggling with guilt over how she is feeling and doing whatever he can to give her that security she is craving. She's not there that often so I'd probably not push the issue of sleeping in the bed with her dad, she obviously needs that comfort and safety. I think that's one thing you can let go of amongst it all. X